How To Deal With A Break Up

A broken heart is tough to handle. We keep wondering how to deal with a break up, and here’s a post that will help us understand how best we can do this.

Ok, he’s shown you the door and you haven’t come to terms with it yet. A dozen tissue boxes and endless phone calls (to your best friend) later, you still find the dark, murky hangover clouds looming wherever you go. It was just yesterday when he told you that he no longer felt the same way about you. Think about it; was it really yesterday or a month ago?

The sound of the snapping chord haunts us for days to come, yet most of us ignore a simple fact that life is made up of several chords and the one that snapped was not strong enough to play the right notes. In other words, post break up, all of us seem to mull over the tragedy and drag ourselves down the drains of depression, while simultaneously convincing ourselves that a silver lining is just on its way. Let me burst your bubble; no silver lining will fall into your lap. You are the change and you need to take a firm step ahead to get rid of the hangover.

1. The very first commandment of curing the break up pain is to accept that it’s over and to move ahead. Yes, I know it takes time; you can’t stop crying and thinking about it, but hey, give it time. The water-works business will tire you out in five days.
2. Keep yourself busy like a bee. And trust me, this works. It works like magic, I’d say. Don’t loiter around in shopping malls with nothing on your mind as it’s possible that boredom might creep in. Also, Internet games are a big no-no.
3. There must be some hobby that you would have discarded at the sight of your new-found love interest. It’s time to fish it out of the bin and start all over again. Singing, sewing, cooking, reading, running or maybe gymming. Whatever it might be, just start.
4. Very importantly, please don’t listen to Toni Braxton, Michael Buble, Boyzone, Backstreet Boys, Celine Dion and the rest of the choir group who’d open the reservoir gates and flood your eyes. In short, no sad love songs.
5. Discard all his belongings if you feel that they might evoke some feelings in the future. Don’t throw it away. Courier it to your ex. It might be useful to him.
6. Go to new places and meet new people. A whiff of fresh air will make you realise that it is time you opened the windows to let the stale (your ex, of course) air out.
7. Spas and beauty parlours help too; also, a new hairstyle.
8. What’s important here is also the fact that you need to analyse why the break up happened. Never be ashamed to accept your faults. It will help you build a better relationship next time.
9. And finally, don’t fall in love again within a short span of time. Give yourself the time to find and know a new person. For all you know, two dinners later, you may block him from pinging you on your chat list!

Remember, life is a beautiful journey, but with lots of bad roads and flat tyres. Just fix it and keep moving.

This post was previously published at the author’s blog.

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