What’s Your Secret To Surviving Heartbreak? Share!

When that someone who once loved you, loves you no longer, that is the most painful feeling ever! How do you survive heartbreak and carry on? We discuss.

Heartbreak is a multi-faceted beast; sometimes you break your own heart because you choose the wrong person to fall in love with and then sometimes, someone else breaks your heart saying you were the wrong choice. Either way, your heart is broken and the pain is unfathomable.

Trust me, we have all been there or will be there at some point of our lives; a time when we’ll feel gutted inside; think that we will be sucked in deep into this giant sinkhole; where escape will not be an option and being happy not a choice anymore.

Yesterday, we had our weekly #WomenOnTheMove chat over at Twitter, where we discussed how to survive heartbreak. Is the pain different for men and women? This is what our tweeples said. We also had with us author Ira Trivedi who has written previously, India In Love, and now explores love and heartbreak in her new novel, Nikhil And Riya.

(If you’re not yet following Women’s Web on Twitter, do now, and you can come over for the chat too, every Wednesday 6-7PM IST).

Some tips for healing

Believe in yourself

A1: Be strong. Trust your abilities. Stop caring and move on. #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/n2puHMA2tU

— Tarang Sinha (@TarangSinha) February 1, 2017

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Time is the greatest healer

@womensweb Time. It brings perspective and, if you’re lucky, detachment.

— Sunayana Roy (@sunayanaroy) February 1, 2017

Engage in meaningful activities

@womensweb straight up drowning yourself in other things that take yo brain space. Helps some.

— Radhika (@rads) February 1, 2017

@womensweb a1 been through it once, being busy helped to a certain extent.. Let myself grieve and got over him. #womenonthemove

— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) February 1, 2017

@womensweb A1. travel,chats with friends,meditation sometimes wine.

— Pooja Priyamvada (@IAmSufiZen) February 1, 2017

Talk to loved ones, let it out, talk. It is important!

@womensweb Move on and immerse yourself in something productive. Talk to your loved ones to feel better.

— Neha Jain (@digimothercom) February 1, 2017

Dating after a break up — immediate or take it slow?

@womensweb a2 it depends on your frame of mind & meeting someone interesting as well. Just make sure it’s not a rebound #womenonthemove

— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) February 1, 2017

@womensweb A2. Depends, no hard and fast rules,sometimes chronology is not so water tight.

— Pooja Priyamvada (@IAmSufiZen) February 1, 2017

@womensweb definitely 3 with different relations and ppl the heart behaves diff I guess

— TravelingNoodles (@anjujayaram) February 1, 2017

@womensweb Although it depends on the circumstances, but it is better to take a break and give yourself some time!

— Neha Jain (@digimothercom) February 1, 2017

@womensweb @IAmSufiZen Everyone has his/her own https://t.co/D87nDtiWsW must be watchful that it isn’t on the rebound.For your own sake.

— Varsh (@varshabagadia) February 1, 2017

Indian women — making more informed choices

@womensweb a3 absolutely.. Girls are open to breaking age old myths and shackles.. They are far more independent #womenonthemove

— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) February 1, 2017

@womensweb Women now are more ready to accept flawed people/relationships and move on. Thats good. #womenonthemove https://t.co/fbPCQLfJXF

— Varsh (@varshabagadia) February 1, 2017

One thing about love that has proved true?

@womensweb most misused,misunderstood emotion ever.

— Pooja Priyamvada (@IAmSufiZen) February 1, 2017

@womensweb a4 it’s an emotion that can only be experienced and not explained.. #womenonthemove

— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) February 1, 2017

@womensweb Real love begins when nothing is expected in return. #ThichNhatHanh

— Pooja Priyamvada (@IAmSufiZen) February 1, 2017

To not be in love with love the emotion. Learn to accept unconditionally is what love means to me. https://t.co/dGGakazW8s

— foodietrails (@kuheli1) February 1, 2017

@womensweb a4 you like one guy more than others, willing to bend the rules a bit, comfort, ability to talk about anything or just be.

— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) February 1, 2017

Is the pain of a heart break different for men & women?

@womensweb I think gender is just incidental if there is genuine emotional investment.

— Pooja Priyamvada (@IAmSufiZen) February 1, 2017

I don’t think intrinsically but wonder – why do movies show a woman who leaves a relationship as the heartless bitch… #womenonthemove https://t.co/qjKFC84CcV

— Aparna V Singh (@editorsahiba) February 1, 2017

@womensweb As we all know “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” so their way of dealing with it is totally different. Doesn’t matter.

— Neha Jain (@digimothercom) February 1, 2017

@womensweb I reckon it depends on how emotionally invested they are in the relationship. Gender is secondary

— Sid (@iwrotethose) February 1, 2017

@womensweb If a couple is truly in love, ideally, the feelings should be same after break-up irrespective of gender, no? 🙂 #WomenOnTheMove

— Tarang Sinha (@TarangSinha) February 1, 2017

@womensweb a5 nope I have seen guys hit worse than women.. #womenonthemove

— Aarti Krishnakumar (@talesfromaaroo) February 1, 2017

Yes, heartbreaks are painful but we need to accept it and move on. You can get over your heartbreak with more ease and better sense of self if you let go and realize the worst part is over and it’s time for you to move on with life!

And if you are in Bangalore, join us on Saturday, February 4th, for a fun event on What Women Want (in love and relationships), where you’ll meet Ira Trivedi and other engaging speakers.

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