Is There A ‘Secret Mantra’ For A Successful Marriage?

There is no ‘secret mantra’ for a successful marriage. It all depends on the levels of commitment and understanding couples agree to put in! #WomenOnTheMove

There’s no denying the fact that most Indians still believe that love marriages DO NOT work, at all! That they are destined to crumble, unlike the arranged marriages which supposedly have a higher success rate. Wondering what drives this belief? Here are some explanations:

You know nothing child! I am your parent! I know what’s best for you! Even though you are 30!

So, once a parent always a parent. Indian parents believe they are the bulwark of their child’s well being and no one but them can decide what’s best for them; yeah not even the ‘children’ themselves even though they might be well beyond their 30s.

It’s against the tradition & it’s like betraying your parents (snatching their right to choose the partner 4 their children) #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/SbEh9gbytq

— Tarang Sinha (@TarangSinha) October 11, 2017

It is safe! You have the family’s backing!

Marriages in India are more of a family affair. Include the opinions of ‘chacha’ ‘chachi’, ‘nana’ ‘nani’, ‘tau’ ‘tai’ and many more and you are safely insulated. Something goes wrong? Fret not! You will have the family’s backing. So much so, that even if things get uglier, there will be mounting family pressure to keep going and make the marriage WORK!

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A perception that arranged marriages go on more safely. And if anything goes wrong you have dozens of people to defend you. #WomenOnTheMove

— Manpreet Kaur (@Manpreet__Kaur) October 11, 2017

Love is not for all!

You don’t find love, love finds you and there are many whom love does not find. So what do they do? Go the family way!

Not all people can find love that’s why arrange marriage

— Anokhi (@crazydeewani) October 11, 2017

Log kya kahenge?

love is not everything to live, relation won’t persist very long, love marriage is against Indian culture, it’s insulting parents

— manjari pandey (@sona59) October 12, 2017

Arrange marriages are always successful – logical or bogus?

There are no guarantees in life! We live in an age where even blood relationships are falling apart, then how can one be absolutely sure of the success rate of a relationship that is not related by blood!

Nothing in life is insured… I hv seen bad choices work well & obvious by society standards good choices fail from day 1 of marriage

— the doctor writes (@goldinketc) October 11, 2017

Then why arranged marriages are still preferred over love marriages?

A2. Cz parents refuse to accept that a person allowed to legally vote can find a partner for himself/herself #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/OoxAMa3o1q

— Suman Kher (@Suman_Kher) October 11, 2017

What makes a marriage work?

So, like #WomenOnTheMove said, whether a marriage will work or not does not depend on how you got married. The success of a marriage depends on the following things:

Commitment

Absolutely not. Marriage requires lot more commitment than a relationship. Both kinds can collapse, no guarantees anywhere. #WomenOnTheMove

— Varsh (@varshabagadia) October 11, 2017

Trust

Yes. All depends on love, trust, support and understanding. Things must work for both of the two. #WomenOnTheMove

— Manpreet Kaur (@Manpreet__Kaur) October 11, 2017

Adjustments

A3) NO. It depends on how the couple adjusts, understands, compromises, prioritizes, n nurtures their relationship with time #WomenOnTheMove

— rashi mital (@Rashi_AMital) October 11, 2017

Compromises

Whether love/arrranged, marriage is where each person’s strengths & values are tested at every point of their journey #WomenOnTheMove

— Swapna Raghu Sanand (@Svara) October 11, 2017

Happiness lies in blending together their strengths & values in exactly right proportion at the right time by their actions #WomenOnTheMove

— Swapna Raghu Sanand (@Svara) October 11, 2017

Maintaining a balance

A3 yes it has nothing to do about “how” it happened but what it becomes, so it depends on how the couple evolve together #WomenOnTheMove

— Pooja Sharma Rao (@SoulVersified) October 11, 2017

Understanding

It would be successful if both partners are compatible and understanding.

— Anokhi (@crazydeewani) October 11, 2017

All marriages start at the same point, only some get a head start over the others. You might know your partner a little more than the ones who have an arranged marriage, where every minute of the marriage feels like peeling an onion – a new discovery in each layer. But the litmus test begins only after the couple start living together — be it love or arranged. Because it is only when you start living with a person under one roof and share everything in life, you actually get to know the REAL person.

Absolutely not as I realize. Once the marriage happens, everyone starts at the same place. Generalizing here but it’s more right than not https://t.co/Iyrendm8M7

— Radhika (@rads) October 11, 2017

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