The Notion Of Love Is Changing And That’s Something To Celebrate! #LettersToMyEx

With the changing times, the notion of love in Indian society is also changing into something more practical and real. A quick recap of our #WomenOnTheMove chat with a very special guest. 

Our weekly Twitter chat #WomenOnTheMove covers a range of issues of interest to women. This week, we talked about how definitions of love and romance are changing in modern India, and we had a special guest, bestselling author Nikita Singh, who answered questions about her writing process and her latest book Letters To My Ex, as well as how she writes romance that is ‘real’.

One of the things to cheer for that emerged from the chat was how love has changed from the traditionally propagated ‘Saat Janam ka Rishta’ to a more practical, inclusive and relaxed notion which does not have rigid, useless demands. This is especially important for women where the idea of ‘one great love’ has always been tied to ‘purity’ and ‘chastity’.

Yes High time. The concept of Sath Janam and marriage till infinity should fade with time. And who knows 'one great love' may be superseded by 'one greater love' #WomenOnTheMove

— Manpreet Kaur (@Manpreet__Kaur) February 14, 2018

Yes. I saw this happen to someone very recently. She moved from one relationship to another in a very short span because she could not connect with her ex. I was happily surprised to see people supporting her decision that did not include the word harassment#WomenOnTheMove

— Nikita Jhanglani (@NikitaJhanglani) February 14, 2018

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I've also seen a lot of people open up to the idea of dating, and that is a welcome change wherever it comes. I just hope we get beyond the caste and the birth charts soon! Pre-marital sex, however, is another story! @WomenOnTheMove

— Nikita Jhanglani (@NikitaJhanglani) February 14, 2018

A3. I think it´s a healthy notion of love. It´s high time. Love cannot be boxed into one label or category alone. #WomenOnTheMove

— Tina Sequeira (@tinajsequeira) February 14, 2018

Love is not supposed to be this one thing to be achieved in life. It is a collective, of things we learn, people we meet, people we let go. How can all of this be expected to coagulate into this one life-changing event?

The idea of women having more than one partner in her lifetime is also taking root gradually, which is so, so great and liberating to so many women out there who keep themselves from going out there and finding someone. Second chances and happy endings are something that Nikita Singh is very fond of and that is evident in her books.

you always give second shot at love for your characters. Do you think one should go for second time in love?

— Ajay Mehra (@Ajayliciously) February 14, 2018

Absolutely! #WomenOnTheMove https://t.co/jPeHlLXsik

— Nikita Singh (@singh_nikita) February 14, 2018

She also talks about how heartbreak is an event that occurs to almost everyone, at least once in their lives and how we should try to learn from it.

We're waiting for @singh_nikita to resume, but in the meanwhile, our 1st Q for all of you: What is the one thing in your life that you've learnt from heartbreak? #WomenOnTheMove pic.twitter.com/hFYkjgmJUR

— Womensweb.in (@womensweb) February 14, 2018

Yes, it adds character and gives us perspective. ❤️ https://t.co/k4lKrYNxai

— Nikita Singh (@singh_nikita) February 14, 2018

Heartbreaks are Greta times to introspect to rebuilt as my favorite #Rumi says the crack is where the light enters your soul. #WomenOnTheMove

— Pooja Priyamvada (@SoulVersified) February 14, 2018

Speaking of heartbreaks, it cannot be denied that they are painful and hard to get through. It’s not easy to always look at the brighter side when all you see around yourself is lonely darkness and melancholy.There were many ways suggested to get through one, so here’s a handy guide if you’re looking!

A4 address mental health issues like #anxiety and #depression post a heartbreak, and don't be ashamed of multiple relationships. its okay to not find the love of your life in one go. #WomenOnTheMove

— Pooja Priyamvada (@SoulVersified) February 14, 2018

A4. Get busy in doing something that you love. You might just end up finding the purpose of your life. Also, don't be too harsh on yourself. It's okay to cry, to yell and feel the pain but end of it all, pls pick up the pieces and move on for a better tomorrow.#WomenOnTheMove

— Sonia Chatterjee (@soniasmusings) February 14, 2018

A4 Forgive and move on but don't forget the lessons for life and future love, especially if it is a marriage and you have kids, its important to see you ex and co-parent without bitterness for your own mental health and that of your kids. #WomenOnTheMove

— Pooja Priyamvada (@SoulVersified) February 14, 2018

So, the moral of this post is: Take it easy, don’t stress if you still haven’t found the love of your life or if you’ve lost it. It’s okay. It will all be fine, just take care of yourself…

Nikita Singh’s new novel Letters To My Ex is being launched this week, on Feb 22nd, 2018 in Mumbai, and on Feb 23rd, 2018, in Bangalore. Sign up here!

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