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Just being a girl or a woman is enough - men consider them fair game. But it matters what question we ask - instead of blaming her, ask: why did he?
Just being a girl or a woman is enough – men consider them fair game. But it matters what question we ask – instead of blaming her, ask: why did he?
Once my tutor asked me a question when I answered correctly, he cupped my face with both his hands and tried to kiss me on my cheeks. I was uncomfortable, and pulled myself away with all my strength. I was too afraid to even tell my mother. My little mind failed to justify his behavior. So, I did what I could- washed my face rigorously with soap, for days.
On a sunny afternoon, my friend and I were having a reunion at the Marine drive. We sat facing the sea- oblivious to the world, buried so deep in our conversation, that we didn’t realize how our dangling legs and fluttering dresses, invited attention. It was only after a few hours that we noticed the rag-picker standing down below, looking up at us- with his pants off.
“I will miss your tits”- message, one of my classmate sent me after our farewell party.
I was disgusted, ashamed, and angry. I couldn’t figure out what to do. So, I shared with a friend. Who casually suggested, “maybe he was drunk”, “maybe he would really miss you”, “he will apologize tomorrow”.
But, what would I do with his apology?
I replayed the events of the night, trying to find a fault in me. I recalled all the clothes that I ever worn to college, wondering if any of them were ever inviting or revealing.
I kept asking, “why me?” When it should’ve been, “Why did he?”
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