The Lessons I Learnt From My Daughter

I remember when I was all of 5, I had once walked down all alone to my play school which was almost 800 m away from my house because I couldn’t wait for my mum to get my sister dressed and drop us. I also remember getting a good spanking from my parents for being so impatient at that age. Not that the episode helped much. I hated waiting.

I hated procrastination and half done jobs lying on the table.

Dinner once cooked had to be served.

I was obsessed with “Now”!

Well !! I was always trying to cross the bridge even before I reached it. I realized it was toxic for me because life is not going to be kind always.

So the inevitable change had to happen. And hardly did I fathom the catalyst would be my own daughter and would start from even before she was conceived.

A person who thought she could conceive at the snap of her fingers was made to wait for a good 9-10 months. You can imagine the grilling the husband had to go through each month I failed to miss my periods. Just when I was about to lose all my faith in God (don’t know what role God had to play) tiny little Anupriya decided, “Mummy, I am on my way to your tummy”.

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Lesson learnt : You usually have to wait for that which is worth waiting for.

An impatient new born mother who thought her body would immediately start producing gallons of milk had to deal with feeding colostrum. The new born daughter and mother had their tug of war during latching. The onlookers had their opinions and directives on “How To Feed A New Born”. Just when the impatient Mumma was thinking “Am I even made for this??” Little Anupriya cried out (as if saying) “Mumma, I am famished.”

Lesson learnt: Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in your mind.

Milestones:

They will start teething from 5-6 months. Her first tooth erupted at 18 months.

Baby will start running around from 12 months. She was still taking baby steps holding my hand till she was 15 months.

Kids are potty trained by 18 months. Here I was still cleaning her poop till she was 5 years.

Peer pressure : Their child could recite National anthem at age 3- Here I was struggling with twinkle twinkle little star.

The new born mom was now getting seasoned. With each missed deadline to reach the milestone I realized :

Rivers know this that there is no hurry. We shall get there some day. We are indeed getting there and HOW!!

She will be 10 next year and has her say in her dressing, food habits, choice of friends and most of the times she is testing my patience. But now I know probably very early on that she has learnt to make her choices and has developed her individual taste for things. Things can’t happen my way or at my pace always.

Lesson learnt: Adopt the pace of nature , her secret is patience.

Thank You Lesson learnt!!

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