Women Should Not Be Forced To Follow Traditions And Rituals

Indian women have to follow umpteen traditions for the longevity of their husband’s precious life. Once married, the woman has to wear a mangalsutra, vermilion, red bindi, toe rings, bangles, anklets- to name a few.

These are just some rituals she has to follow to show she cares for her husband’s long life. Not to forget wearing vibrant coloured clothes too is one of them. Pastel or subtle coloured clothes- these are not for married women!

A woman has no choice in what she wears

Try wearing lighter shades for functions or weddings, and you will start hearing all kinds of comments such as, ‘Hay hay, isko dekho kaise colour ke kapde pehene hai, pati abhi zinda hai!’ (Look at her! She’s wearing such colour clothes even though her husband is alive).

Dare you to defy any of these- you will be labelled as the one who doesn’t care about him and his good health. The worst part of it all is other women judging the women who refuse to follow these traditions.

Not all men fast for their wife’s longevity

On the contrary, what do men have to do for the well being of their wives? They are not supposed to decorate themselves with ornaments like a Christmas tree or sport anything except the wedding ring. They are not supposed to fast or pray on special days for their wives!

I wonder who made these rules, and whoever did why aren’t they equal for both genders? Is it anything to do with the fact that he is the breadwinner of the family and needs to live a healthy, long life?

While as for the wife, she’s just a cleaner, cook and a caretaker who can be easily replaced with paid staff or another woman in case something happens to her!

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Women are tortured and shamed in the name of traditions

In the name of these traditions, women are tortured into living a life they do not want to live. Not all women are comfortable with wearing the mangalsutra, the bangles, the toe rings daily.

So many of them are allergic to the bindi and the vermilion, yet day in day out they have to wear it, otherwise, society is quick to accuse her of inviting a bad omen.

Women are blamed for their choices

In the end, it’s always a woman who will be held responsible for whatever bad happens in the family. ‘She didn’t do this, she didn’t do that, that’s why my son is suffering today,’ is what we always get to hear.

God forbid if something happens despite following the traditions, the woman is going to get blamed all over again.

Then what’s the point in following them in the first place? Everything is always about them- as a woman, what’s in it for me?
I know some women like these traditions. But, I for one, do not see much logic in forcing someone who isn’t comfortable with following them.

Unfortunately, men never have to do any of these or anything else for their spouse- and that’s unfair.

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