Single, Not Working, But Happy: This Women’s Day, I Liberate Myself

Today, during this special week for women, instead of wishing a very happy women’s week to all my female friends and loved ones, I chose to sit back and contemplate for myself as a woman and decided to liberate myself from all the pressures I have been living with for the last so many years.

As we rightly say, “Charity begins from home”, and I thought, more than anyone else, it’s for my own sake that I need to live with sanity and purpose.

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A few years back, after having almost two decades of working experience and not feeling very fulfilled with the work and the daily routine, I took the strong decision of quitting my job without any plans. I must say, this was one of the most difficult decisions of my life, leaving a senior position and a handsome salary. I was in the middle of nowhere and more than me, the world seemed to be hassled with what I was going to do next.

It’s been almost 1.5 years now since I quit my job or I would rather say since I stopped earning, which is the only pain point and that too, one which hits me only when I am in a deep shit of insecurity. However, by God’s Grace, and due to our simple upbringing and lifestyle, due to my dad’s intelligent financial plans and our savings so far, I have been able to manage till now without any such situation where I have to forgo any of my desires.

For the world it’s like the cherry on the cake now…single woman and that too not working? HAWWWW!

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p dir=”ltr”>People around me (not including my loved ones) have started poking their noses, fingers, and mouths into my peaceful life asking me how I spend my time when I am ‘Single’ and ‘Not Working’.
They may not be loud and clear in phrasing their questions about my marital and non-working status but their twisted way of barging into my world makes it very clear that they are amazed as to how can a woman like me can pass her time well and doesn’t seem to be frustrated.

I am today sitting back and telling my self these 7 things.

‌1. For me my mental peace is the most important thing which I have always focused on.

‌2. Being single is not a problem for me but yes, I would love to have a companion. I am sure there are  plans for me to be happier.

‌3. Quitting my job was not ‘giving up’. I didn’t quit my job because of anyone. No body has walked my path so nobody has the right to make judgements on my decisions. I am a survivor. I have gone through hell right from the first day of my career and have bounced back every time I was pulled down. ‌I have been able to built a strong resilience and nobody in this world has the guts to go through what I did. People knowing me and my experience have applauded how I survived, that too successfully and with dignity.

‌4. My decision to quit my job was for my happiness. I was not feeling happy anymore with what I was doing. I very strongly felt that a crucial phase of my life is getting wasted with this monotonous and unproductive routine. Life meant a lot to me and if I can, then why not live life, take chances and experience other shades of life too? I didn’t want to repent in my last years that had I taken a small risk, I could have truly lived instead of running in the rat race.

‌5. If after quitting my Job, I am living my aspirations, then why am I supposed to justify my life to anyone?

‌6. I am able to paint a lot, write a lot, do my yoga, a lot of walking, spend a lot of time with my parents, am able to make plans of travelling and meeting my old friends when ever I feel like, I am able to do a lot of house chores like chopping vegetables, kneading the dough, washing dishes, cooking new things, spending time with my sisters and my lovely niece and nephew; I am able to see them growing up, am able to meet cousins I could never meet or last did when we were kids, I am able to try out new things and most importantly, I am able to be happy and make my surroundings happier which I somehow ignored when i was working. I am able to maintain my mental sanity…then why the hell I am living under the pressure of answering to the world?

‌7. This is my life and it’s my time. I am doing my bit and my universe will do its bit for helping me give a purposeful direction to my life.

So just relax…nothing goes waste in this world. My attempts at exploring my niche will come to light soon. Until that time building a foundation is important and it has to be a strong and happy foundation. Nobody has the right and power to shake my foundation and my structure. My confidence, my patience, my resilience and my loved ones are my strengths.

I may be single, I may be non-working but I am a satisfied, happy soul, a spirituality awakened soul.

I want my own support every minute of my life and nobody else can give me the amount of love and acceptance I can give myself.

So I love me, and give myself my best wishes. I shall stay happy, healthy and I shall LIVE my life…I don’t believe in “existing” – I will “LIVE”.

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