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The Government of India targets to build a 5 trillion GDP by 2025. Given the growth rate of the GDP, this target is not possible if women do not participate in the economy, and if female human resources are not used in the wealth-generation process.
The wealth of a nation is determined by its Gross Domestic Product (GDP). The GDP of a nation is directly proportional to the number of man-hours worked. The more number of people participate in the workforce, the faster the wealth gets generated.
According to the estimates of the World Inequality Report 2022, in India, men earn 82 per cent of the labour income whereas women earn only 18 per cent of it.
Let us look at the numbers:
The Government of India targets to build a 5 trillion GDP by the year 2025. Given the growth rate of the GDP, this target is not possible if WOMEN do not participate in the economy, and if female human resources are not used in the wealth-generation process, our ecoomy will tank.
Yes, millions of women in India are biological ‘human beings,’ but not economic human resources, i.e., their efforts do not convert into money! Post-1991, the historic LPG (Liberalization-Privatization-Globalization) has increased employment opportunities manifold.
However, quite counter-intuitively, the female labour force participation has almost halved since the early 2000s!
In an agro-based Indian culture, women are refrained by their menfolk from stepping out to work, saying “Jab hum itna kamaa rahe hain, toh darling tumko baahar jaa kar kaam karne ki kya zaroorat hain?“— Darling, when I am earning so much, why do you have to work and step out of home?
Women are so emotional that they buy into it. This one single mindset has destroyed female human resources, made them non-performing assets, and excluded them from the economy. Men are playing the money-making game almost exclusively, and women are sitting in the audience, cheer-leading.
Due to millennia of socio-cultural conditioning, women have been psychologically detached from the money-making process. They have been groomed to be simply the support-systems of men, helping them chase their dreams and earn more money.
Men are always standing on the shoulders of women (mothers/wives), and appearing tall in the economic field. But a successful woman stands on the ground and had to stretch herself taller to appear equal to the man.
The un-monetizable “woman-hours” at home need to be limited. In an economy, ‘man-hours’ are monetizable, ‘woman-hours’ are not. While men (shrewdly) work only if they are paid for it, women often (stupidly) work for irrespective of the compensation.
What she does not realize is that her unpaid labour can be easily done by an outsourced person, who will also be paid for it. Women need to realize how men are taking blatant advantage of her efforts.
She cooks and serves, he eats and burps. She makes the bed, he lies on it. Not only that, but she dusts and arranges the sofa, he lounges on it watching TV. She is warming and keeping the nest, he is flying out to new heights.
Furthermore, she thinks she is doing all this to show her “love” for her husband /son.
No.
Slogging it out at home is not “love”. Women have been conditioned to believe that their primary task is to ‘support’ men in their bread-winning endeavours.
If men work for 08 hours a day, why should women work for 16 hours a day? This is where the labour vs compensation imbalance starts. If you live like an assistant, expect an assistant’s salary at max.
We women are too emotional to understand the ‘game’ called economy. Yes, it is a game. You have to know to sell your worth, establish your brand, manoeuvre your way, and get paid for your efforts.
Traditionally, men have been (competitively) distributing the wealth among themselves, exploiting women, and throwing them tit-bits. This continues to keep women poor and powerless. Women need to participate in the wealth-generation process to grab a piece of the pie.
Jeetna hain to khel ke maidan mein utarna padega. Naukar nahin, maalik banna padega— if you want to win, you have to enter the playground.
A woman needs to develop confidence on their abilities and credentials, and should refuse to be easily dismissed or trivialized by men. She should respect their own professional skills and demand an equivalent compensation with utmost confidence.
Taking this forward, she needs to start her own source of wealth-generation (job-creator), instead of being a job-seeker before a male employer. For all of this, she needs to overcome hesitancy and stop to have a job-ride of patriarchy, i.e., she cannot relax and assume that the husband is supposed to earn the money by default.
Men need to overcome their domestic disablity. There are enough millennial men who parrot the lines of gender equality, yet want housewives in their personal lives, and then go on to say, ‘Oh! It was her choice to be a homemaker’. The onus of balancing work and home has to be alleviated from women.
Men cannot have a joyride on the home front, being couch potatoes and preening themselves. They need to step in and reduce women’s unpaid labour at home, and participate equally in running a house (it is not a hotel-cum-restaurant).
They need to get up and look after their own needs, breaking gender stereotypes. Yes, they need to put in effort to look after their food, clothes, home (roti-kapda-makan). They have to stop expecting women to wait upon them and cater to them.
Boys need to learn domestic skills from the age of 8. They should know to make their bed, clean their socks and shoes, put their clothes in the washing machine, fold their clothes, arrange their cupboard, put their plates away into the sink, water the plants, etc.
From around age 12, sons should learn to make breakfast and snacks, iron their clothes, run domestic gadgets like washing machine, toaster, mixer/grinder, wash the dishes, dust their own room, clean the washroom porcelain, do pest-control, etc.
By age 18, they should know to cook, handle money, and look after the safety of the house. Most importantly, he needs to do all this without being told /reminded/nagged at /coaxed / blackmailed.
Additionally, care-giving and hospitality are important skills to be picked up consciously by men. In this way, they will never need a woman to lean on.
The mother-son equation needs a major upgrade. It is high time you raise your sons into 21st century men. Stop pampering sons and reducing them to domestically ill-equipped overgrown children (Peter Pan syndrome).
Mama’s boys are increasingly getting rejected in the marriage market. The more a son is dependent on his mother, the more he will require a woman (wife) in future to look after him, causing her to compromise on her career.
Forcefully break this pattern, even risking a temper tantrum:
Remember, when you do something for your son which he sufficiently capable of doing himself, you are denying him the self-esteem of being an independent person. Actually and factually, the mother panders to the son because (usually) she has nothing else to do! No job, no career, no hobbies! (How many of you can name your mom’s hobby?)
After the son leaves home for college, she suffers from the ’empty nest syndrome’. By then, it is too late for her to re-enter the workforce. She faces an identity crisis, leading to 15% of the total suicides, and 50% of female suicides in India says the NCRB Data).
The mother needs to remove her attention away from her son at regular and at increased intervals as the son grows up, and cut the umbilical cord. Stop his joyride ASAP. Do not delay the adulting of the Indian son: your future daughter-in-law suffers if you raise a man-child.
If you make him independent, three generations of women (mother/sister/wife/ daughter/daughter-in-law) are spared from spending time and effort looking after him and catering to his domestic needs (for free): they can prioritize their own dreams, ambition and career and start money-making (adding to the GDP). In this way, female talent is not squandered, but is used for building the nation.
Men cannot have the cake and eat it too. Often, a married man is more successful, has a more wholesome life, is responsible, has a daily routine, has savings, is healthier and is more dedicated; as compared to a bachelor. Marriage is seen to mature a man and anchor his life: the wife is there for constant support and encouragement.
The wife is called the ‘better half’, because she sacrifices at least half of herself to socio-economically prop up her husband. She is the cook, the cleaner, the attendant, the assistant, the sex-provider, the baby-producer, the culture-upholder, the public-relations-officer.
“Behind every successful man, there is a woman” it is exactly so!
A husband always says to his wife, “Mera saath do” —support me! Explicitly or implicitly, he is expecting the wife to hang around him 24x7x365 and support him in his domestic and socio-cultural needs, such that he himself can fully focus on his career and money-making endeavours.
At the beginning of the day, he expects bed tea, breakfast, clothes, stationery, shoes, etc. to be arranged/fetched by his mother/wife. Once he returns home at the end of the day, he expects the woman to be around to serve him tea, towel, newspaper, dinner.
The wife becomes the free yet solid platform which elevates the man. The subtraction from a woman’s value goes and becomes the addition to a man’s value. On the path of growth, it is not 1:1 (woman:man), but 0.5 :1.5, or worse still, 0:2 (for housewives).
Men assume that a woman, by default, will be available, supporting, compromising, sacrificing, adjusting, and can be taken for granted. Men succeed at the cost of women. In the typical Indian family structure, women have no time for themselves. She is always ‘on duty’, on her toes.
This is why female health, nutrition, education, mental health are all poor in India. Men destroy female human resources. Period. Why cannot they excel without female domestic support? Why is he so lazy and entitled? Look at the other side of the coin. Who supports women?
Behind a woman’s success is her own backbone (sometimes the father). Men need to stop crushing women’s careers. Please make life easier for women. If you prefer women as housewives/ working part-time, women will tend to reduce their ambitions to get married. Homely, family-oriented, part-time working women are far likely to marry early and easily.
Matrimonial advertisements show this ‘demand’. Hence, comes in the ‘supply’.
Women cut short their careers to become marriageable. “Ladki zyada padh likh jaayegi to ladka milna mushkil hoga”, if a girl studies too much, it will be hard to get a groom for her.
Please see the equation below. Selfish men cost the nation a chunk of the ‘missing GDP’, which could have decreased the denominator, increased the numerator, and made India a developed country. Patriarchy is a CURSE! All developed countries have high female workforce participation rate.
Women need to toot their own horns. Many women become scared of striving for excellence, lest she outshines her male counterpart and causes him insecurity.
Women are intrinsically asked to step back and put the spotlight on the pati parmeshwar, husband is god! As if!
This leaves them under-confident and less self-assured, doubting her abilities to make her place under the sun. Women are very hesitant to talk about their achievements. Girls are told to hide their better grades from brothers.
Women declare a lower salary in the marriage market, to prevent suitors from rejecting them. Confident females face the backlash of being perceived as less likeable and less hireable by the employers (who are mostly men).
A typical woman underestimate her abilities and has insufficient courage to project herself as a great candidate in the job market. The society has lapped up this opportunity to constantly remind women that ‘she is not good enough’ and that ‘she should try harder’.
Thinking less of themselves and suffering for the Impostor syndrome, she gets stuck under ‘glass ceilings’. Instead of believing she really deserves something, she shyly attributes her accomplishment to ‘luck’, and distributes the credit to others! This is why she is not able to create her brand value.
A cocky man, often the husband, can easily cause her to self-doubt, indirectly stop her from starting a new job / venture or taking up a new position. Women are exponentially more likely than men to self-blame and self-criticize when thing go wrong, and beat themselves up, further lowering their own self-esteem.
They continue to underplay themselves and miss out on that promotion/salary raise /opportunity. That is how her full potential remains underutilized, and the nation’s GDP misses out on it.
Legal age of marriage need to be raised, if I may, it should be increased to 30. This will give women sufficient time after college to try different pursuits, make mistakes, find a calling, build a career, collect savings, and have a dwelling; before going the ‘family way’.
She should get the time to discover herself, fit well into the economy, form her opinions, and take her decisions. Women in India are married before they can understand the world, let alone understand the economy. Unki duniya bahut chhoti reh jaati hain– their world becomes very limited.
They tend to adjust their career based on her marriage prospects, since patrilocality is still present and 97% of the migrations are by women. She is not able to focus on her growth, because at the back of her mind, she knows that her professional graph will abruptly stall the day she marries and relocates.
Many women keep their career plans on a hold until she gets married, to start on a clean slate.
The nation’s GDP. For decades, girls have been outperforming boys in schools and colleges, but then have dropped out of the race of earning money. One of the reasons is due to societal pressures of ‘marrying off‘ daughters ASAP.
Marriage becomes the end-of-the-road for millions of talented, qualified, and hard-working women. Husbands assume that the wife’s career is secondary (her income is simply a supplement to the ‘family’ income), and that she will eventually quit. Well-qualified women end up in far less-deserving and less-paying jobs, to adjust to the husband’s career and move around with (behind) him.
Marriage makes women disappear from the workforce and get stuck behind the ‘maternal wall’. Women need to stop ‘applying for the job’ of wife/ daughter-in-law, and auditioning for such free roles. Superior jobs/posts/roles can be captured (even created), with just a little ambition, confidence, and perseverance. She cannot be simply a sperm-receptacle.
Indian women are already very fertile (2.06 in 2022): they have produced huge quantity, but poor quality, population. Smaller countries like Japan and Germany, with far less population, are richer than India: they have an efficient and productive population to create wealth and be prosperous.
India needs feminist fathers to grow ambitious daughters. It is the father who can prevent the reduction of a female child into a ‘woman’. Yes, one is not born but becomes a woman. The mother, as the primary up-bringer, may often end up making the daughter a replica of her, i.e., an assistant of patriarchy.
Without the father’s intervention and support, the female child will soon descend into becoming like her mother. He needs to lead his daughter(s) in her (their) growing-up years to become a capable human resource, who has received the education and has developed the skill-set to command a price in the economy.
The father needs to vigorously monitor the school and college education for their daughters, and simultaneously teach them to be independent and dream big. He needs to explicitly tell them that she needs no one’s ‘permission’ to work; and that there is nothing called “the husband should allow me to work”.
Instead of limiting support, daughter’s goals and ambitions. Teach your daughter to step out alone, travel alone, drive, investment, house maintenance, taxes, transport, laws, current affairs!
The father must never ever utter phrases like “Bojh”, “Paraayaa dhan“, “Tum to chali jaaogi”, “Tum hamare budhape ka sahaara nahin ban sakti” : this is exactly the opposite of support and encouragement.
Dear society, kindly stop asking women, ‘when are you giving us the good news?’ Women need to create their credibility beyond what the Nature wants them to do. Women get so focused on motherhood and make it their only identity, that it is hard of employers to believe that she can deliver at work.
Motherhood should be choice, at best a part of life, not the whole of it. The employers, the society, and the government all need to step in and support mothers to return to the economy as soon as possible after having a child.
The society needs to systematically and widely run crèches, play-schools, and professional childcare-giving centres, to prevent women from toiling and burning out. Corporate systems must have a systematic leave-system for maternity / abortion / adoption / child care (Government organizations in India already have it).
Going the ‘family way’ creates the biggest prejudice against women in the market. The bosses assume that ‘anyway this new mom is about to quit’, and therefore she gets sidelined at work, before fading out from the team.
Indian moms are particularly child-obsessed. Relax: children start getting independent by the time they are 12. Give them space : motherhood should take a backseat at this stage.
Teenagers need their space, and mothering them too much only smothers them. Working mothers, who spend at least half the day away from home, raise more independent sons, who knows how to feed himself, throw the trash, answer doorbells, make emergency calls, safely run the heater / microwave / geyser, know the neighbours, etc.
Women spend their whole lives thinking, ‘it is a man’s world’. Men control the core sectors of the economy (Coal, oil, power, Railways (92%)), the law-making bodies (from panchayat to parliament (89.5%)), the defense forces, and the STEM-related fields. Only 21% of the IAS officers are women.
To create a superior nation, women are as much necessary as men to run a country, if not more. She needs to understand that this land is as much hers as a man’s.
She should be conscious of her fundamental rights and stop counting on men to set everything straight for her and make the system women-friendly (men won’t, as long as it does not affect them).
A GDP runs the nation , and taxes build the nation. Women need to be a capable wealth-creator and a swabhimaani (self-respecting) taxpayer. If she is a part of the GDP, it means she owns the public property also. Then she can step out of the four walls, and enjoy her ownership of everything around.
Tax-paying women need to be proudly conscious that they own roads, parks, public buildings (e.g., hospitals, colleges, markets, bus-stops, railway stations, police station, hotels, restaurants, libraries, banks, theatres, courts, etc.), public transport, and that she is not a refugee in a man’s world. She needs to think like a maalik, and run the show!
The day a woman has money in her hands, men start respecting her; and patriarchy dies a natural death.
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