Golden chances–How many are too many?

The Golden Chances—How many are too many?

“”So, with that self-respect intact, will you be able to take the pain of absence? Or do you think “All we have is one short life,” and so will you just continue with adjustments from your end alone?””

I have been to and sat at places which I don’t approve of, in the name of relationships and friendships. I have accommodated umpteen times to prevent those ships from sinking. It’s some learning in the process, strengthened some nerves, made us tough, but was it worth it?

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Chances….How many should one give?How many are too many?

Do you habitually indulge folks by giving ample chances without as much giving a second thought? Do you always focus only on the good? Are you conditioned to ignore the bad?

Tell me why you wish to continue until it becomes a pattern and their intentions are clear in your face like that bright street light, always standing tall?

Making efforts towards someone isn’t that difficult, if only you wish to. Why hide behind the layers of a million silly reasons? Why play with someone’s emotions? Why are adjustments unidirectional? Why insult someone’s patience with you?

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Truth stares at us in the eye

Yet we squint our eyes

And ignore the coral flags

We paint our versions of fresh blues to the fences

While we shd have burnt those bridges.

Shd we have built one at all?

So much for positive thinking.

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The virtues of forgiving and having a majestic heart, which were once treated as superior attributes a human can possess, aren’t celebrated as much today.

When you forgive, you are expected to forgive every time. You forget, you foresee and keep straight face, but do people notice it? Do people munch on their mistakes and work on imperfections? Do they wish to change their behavior for better?

What if people are completely ok with treating you that way because you do not react?

The saga of “This is me.”, ” I love myself the way i am.”, ” I dont care what others think.” and the like, has given way to so many misbehaviors. But bear in mind, it’s never ok to mistreat someone, no matter what one is going through. It’s never cool to ignore. If you are out of the relationship, please walk out.

Now, what if you react?

People might correct if sensible, willing or genuine or if you matter to them in first place. Otherwise they might defend themselves, or worse, attack you and label you as sensitive. If you are dealing with narcissists, they will for sure make it about you, your vulnerabilities and apprehensions. Believe me, it will take months before you get to see the real picture of them as they are pro with their masks and shields.

So, in that case are you responsible for the breach in friendship? Or did you just act brave to guard your respect?

So, with that self-respect intact, will you be able to take the pain of absence? Or do you think “All we have is one short life,” and so will you just continue with adjustments from your end alone?

Will the fear of being labeled or cornered ever come in the way of standing for yourself?

What’s your choice? What matters to you?

What one feels and how one chooses to react in this regard depends on each individual and the depth of relationship they are dealing with.

However, it’s never too late to be prudent and choose wisely.

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